How to boost your confidence! Isn’t that the thing we all want to know? Isn’t that what most females desire? “Confidence” just seems to be one of those magical words, as if no matter how hard us women ranging from teenage years to mid-thirties try to achieve it, it is just so out of reach. Well, I tell you what, if you are one who thinks that, stop! You’re looking in the wrong places. One of my favorite phrases I have heard over the last few years is that “A proud man is one who seeks for the approval of man. A confident man is one who seeks the approval of God.” Wow… That rang so true to me!! Why? Because it is true!
If you are constantly on the Internet, looking at others and comparing your life to theirs, you will never achieve confidence. It doesn’t work that way. Someone will always be more “beautiful” than you, “more fit” than you, and more “cool” or “popular” than you. That’s just how it works. Don’t go trying to be better than this person, or that person. Be in competition with yourself! Strive every day to be a little better than you were the day before! And one thing I felt inspired to write down for myself recently was “Have confidence in God, then you will have confidence in you.” I have found that is honestly something I struggle with a bit. How dumb! God tells us to ask Him what we desire, through prayer, and He will give it to us. There is no question there. It is simple. Ask, have faith, be grateful, and watch it happen. Anyway, I feel I am getting a bit off base here, so let’s start at the very beginning.
I kind of liken this to the twelve step program. The first thing you must do in order to achieve true confidence is to be humble, and acknowledge the fact that you are lacking in confidence (of course, if this post does pertain to you). Sometimes we are so prideful that we don’t think there is any defect in our character. We are perfect just the way we are, and we need no refining. Wow. Not so good. No lie, I have been there, and thought that, and many humbling experiences have happened in my life to rid me of that notion since then (thank goodness). I will say it over and over again, because this is basically the theme of my life now: we are put here on earth to progress. Period. Every day we have the opportunity to make hundreds, if not thousands, of choices. Therefore, we can be refining our character every minute, if we so choose. And what I have found, at least in my life, is that pride is one of my biggest character flaws. I beg and plead to become more Christlike. And when I elaborate, I mention His divine attributes: humility, meekness, lowliness, charity, love, understanding… Aren’t all those words the antithesis of pride? Sure sounds like it to me!
In conclusion, willingness to submit and understand that confidence stems from having confidence in God first is the primary action needed to achieve the true definition of confidence.